There is so much confusion over being "born again" and the indwelling of the Holy Spirit.  These events are not mutually exclusive (you can't have one, without the other)

I heard a Pastor on the radio ask those who were filled with the Spirit to raise their hands; then asked those who wanted to be filled with the Spirit to repeat a prayer.  After the prayer he declared that everyone who prayed was now filled with the Spirit. 

It's no wonder people are so disillusioned with "Christianity."

A lot of preachers say that anyone who believes in Jesus is "born again."  It fills the pews and collection plate, but it's not true.  It might make them "Christians," but it doesn't make them a child of God...even demons believe in God, and tremble (James 2:9) 

Do not be deceived: Spiritual birth, like physical birth, can't be explained; any more than you can explain the taste of salt to someone who has never tasted salt; but that doesn't negate its importance.  Spiritual birth changes the way you think.  Before my illumination I rarely thought about God; after, I couldn't stop thinking about him.

When you're born again, you will have a hunger and thirst for God and his word; and an insatiable desire to please him.  If this doesn't describe your life, you haven't been reborn Spiritually.  Sorry to be so blunt, but being reborn Spiritually is the single most important thing you can do.  As Jesus said, "Ye must be born again."  It's not an option.

Until you're born again...nothing else matters.